Controversy is only controversy because everybody says it is.

I just read about polyamory and polyfidelity... Surprisingly sensible ideas, really, but since not many people agree with that, it is not really viable in most societies. Certainly not where I am now.

But honestly, why are people so stuck on the idea of soulmates? From an evolutionary point of view, polyamory and polyfidelity both serve the same purposes: safeguard against dubious diseases, procreation (well, more for the latter)... Then from a social point of view, they also serve the same purposes, plus benefits: long-term commitment and attachment to multiple partners, sexual gratification with multiple partners, trust and respect among multiple partners, shared domestic burdens...

I mean, it is possible to feel romantic affection for two people simultaneously, as well as three or possibly four (of course, as the numbers become greater, the sincerity of that affection becomes more questionable... that much I grant).

This hasn't got anything to do with personal issues; I just really think that, in all practicality, those two ideas seem more viable and sensible than the advocated monogamy, if only culture and law were accepting of such. This is, of course, in the case of people who feel genuine affection for more than one other.

Then again, I guess it's equally easy to abuse such privileges, which is why the law advocates monogamy in the first place. We humans really know how to screw things up for ourselves.